Defending Britney Spears Against The Masses
I get all kinds of emails. Most are nice and offer words of praise, some are looking for something and then there’s the email I received from Jordan at BreatheHeavy.com.
Since Jordan didn’t stipulate the email was not for publication, and hasn’t responded to my response, I am going to go on the record about my most recent post about Britney, a post which seemed to have enraged a few people. From Jordan’s email:
I never send emails out like this. It’s exhausting to defend her against every blog, so I don’t. BUT wishing death on anyone is sadistic and cruel and you should be ashamed of yourself.
You base your judgments off what you see on the Internet. You have NO idea what goes on in her life, and have NO idea what she really has been dealing with for months now. So for you to sit and type out of your ass, really pisses me off.
Hopefully you are not as dense and thick headed in real life as you portrayed yourself in that post.
The email itself was addressed to our tech guy, so that means Jordan took the time to get contact info from the domain information available, as there was some reference at the end which included a zip code. I am assuming that was meant to be some kind of subtle threat, as in “I know where you live, a**hole.” Great, I am sure some innocent guy who does coding feels really great about your sleuthing skills, but let’s get to the issue at hand: defending Britney against death-wishers.
My post, while extreme and pointed, in no way wished death on Britney. I, like any feeling human, would be saddened by the death of a young mother with her whole life ahead of her. Truly. But Britney isn’t just some young mother. Britney Spears is a public figure - perhaps the most famous public figure in recent years. And she is systematically and without fail, writing her demise before the world at large.
Either by ignorance or sheer spite, Britney has refused to see what every other single human being observing her sees: a disturbed mess.
If Britney were some kind of meth-addicted, homeless mother who had neither the resources, nor the support to get her act together, then a case could be made for feeling sympathy. But instead, Britney has chosen a path of destruction, and at the very heart of that path is her children. Two innocent little boys are caught in the middle of not only an acrimonious divorce between two immature people, but the very apex of their mother’s disintegration.
There is not ONE shred of doubt in my mind, Britney, is at this moment insane. It could stem from some sort of chemical imbalance, personality disorder, or degenerative condition brought on by the stress of her life. Who knows? But what we do know is that many people who love her have desperately tried to help her. People in her family, her inner circle, her fans and in the media have all been saying the same thing. Get help. You are sick. You aren’t well.
And, as we have seen, Britney has shut each and every one of them out of her life simply because they refused to blindly allow her to flush her life away. That’s not just foolish, that’s selfish. Tremendously selfish. I have dealt with tremendously selfish people who have the gall to expect those who care about them to throw their lives away. It goes beyond irritating to the point of hatred.
While I am no fan of Britney’s music, at no point did I ever dislike. That all changed this last year, and Britney’s actions have pushed me (and many others, based on the outpouring of disgust) over the edge. Britney will not get any sympathy or apologies from me until she actively chooses to put her well-being and that of her children at the top of her list of priorities.
And based on her behavior in the above video, that’s not likely.
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Look, We dont know britney. the media is just telling us info about britney which may not be true. I think she should not listen to some people as some people just want to control her for instance her manager and ex husband etc pushed her into rehab cos they threatened to drug test her hair to take kids away. I think ever scince she came on the music scene, she has been controlled. however now no one can control her as she is not listning to them. if she hadnt been controlled maybe she would have actually sung higher vocals in some of her songs and not lipsynched and performed the way she did at the vma 2007 show (meaning that she is still being controlled in some parts of her life). i think she should just do what she wants to do. i know she loves her kids and her career but it is so hard for her to focus on both entirley and succesfully as their is immence media pressure on her and greater chance of her failing due to stress. she is the only celebrity who gets this much media attention these days. not even madonna gets this much these days and i think britney has had the most out of everyone. eveyone will talk about britney forever as everyone (if they love her or hate her) still wants to know whats goin on with her cos its entertainment. she is a great dancer and great entertainer and most importantly a good singer. i think she would have got a record deal if she couldnt sing. she got one based on her singing and after that she was just controled and overproduced to sound 100 per cent certified succesful which she has been but now her real fans are with her and so she should just showcase her true musical and vocal attributes which i think she is doing with songs such as baby bou. go on britney. the world still wants you!
Comment by jhon — September 21, 2007 @ 4:01 pm
I am unclear as to why you believe Britney looks disturbed in this video. All I see is a young mother, all be it with bad hair, lovingly protecting her child.
Comment by Natasha — September 21, 2007 @ 4:30 pm
As always, love your web and love u
Comment by D — September 21, 2007 @ 4:38 pm
You still miss the mark with this girl. You say that you have no doubt that she may be insane but then you continue to call her selfish and ignorant. I have had three very close people in my life that are mentally ill. Two are manic depressive - one is actually my dad and the other is schizophrenic. These people live in different worlds and rarely think they have a problem when they are in the thick of it…..as for actively seeking help:) Well many of these people get off on the highs and lows, riding the wave of the illness. I suspicion the problems she has are long standing and have been medicated to keep the cash pony on target. Many of these people also self medicate to keep the sadness at bay.
Her parents I am sure saw many warning signs and failed to help her when they could have (pre marriages and children - when the going was good). Sending her on the road with minders from the time she was a young teenager is NOT active parenting. You don’t see them making the same mistakes with Jamie Lynne. Her mom is with her every day (oh yeah and taking her to Pure in Las Vegas when she is only 16! But we’ll let that one go….) but at least she is there.
At the end of the day all of this is about money and it makes me sick. Her family, if they truly loved her would stop at nothing to get her the help that she needs and if they are so fearful for the health and wellbeing of those kids then someone needs to file for sole custody. NOT 70/30.
My Dad had some serious issues. Did he do crazy things? Sure. Was our childhood easy? No. Would we be happy to have seen him stop breathing NEVER! Years later - after we were grown he found the help he needed and he is medicated and NOT THE SAME PERSON. In fact he remembers very little from his breakdowns - and he’s a wonderful Grandpa.
This is a girl that truly needs help - not public ridicule and derision. People really need to stop pushing her into an open grave
Comment by ebayer — September 21, 2007 @ 6:57 pm
That is a valid point ebayer, and I can’t really argue with any of it. You would think someone who knows her would come forward and state what is obvious to the rest of us, so that the world at large would leave her be.
The fact that no one has does give cause to ponder.
Comment by dmdo1016 — September 21, 2007 @ 8:28 pm
ebayer, as a parent I would say she owes it to her children to clean up her act. I’m sorry about your childhood but I don’t think you can compare your Dad’s medical condition to Britney’s petulant self destructive behavior.
If she was a regular mom her kids would have been taken away from her a long time ago and rightfully so.
Comment by Dee — September 21, 2007 @ 9:30 pm
Dear Dee,
I am not equating my Father’s situation to Britney’s - I am just saying that mental illness is a disease that is characterized by marked lacked of self control. If everyone could just “get themselves together and clean up their act” there would be no need for meds or psychiatric hospitals.
As for someone’s parental rights being taken away. especially when it is the mom in question - well that is not an easy task! Your statement that if she was a regular mom her children would be taken away is simply not true. I would venture a guess that the most of the drugs she has abused are prescription and she is theoretically not breaking the law.
I agree with you on one pt - a mother should do anything to make her children’s lives better - but when they fail to do so someone really should look into the underlying causes - because it’s just not “normal”.
I just hope for her and her children’s sake her family intervenes.
Comment by ebayer — September 21, 2007 @ 10:36 pm
Okay, All I hear on the television and see on the web and read in magazine is how bad of a person Britney Spears is. Come on people serriously! Think about it, Britney is a highly profiled young woman whos life has been almost destroyed by the media. I just want people to think right now (the people that are reading this of course) to think of of yourself..If you were as famous and rich as Britney and had so much media attention as her could you handle it? The woman just had 2 kids battled a bad marriage ect..and you all critisize her, its pathetic and the most inconsiderate thing I have ever heard. on the VMA’s Britney performed and received alot of negitive feedback. Sure she was not as skinny as she was or was not a prepared as she use to be but she was there and did the show! Why can’t people see her as a woman that is trying to overcome alot of personal issues and get through situations which may be really hard. If my neighbour for example had 2 kids..then a little while later got divorced and had problems with her parents/family/friends/ex husbad would people in my town judge her and critisize her? Prob not..People who deal with issues like that are usually looked upon as a strong person and someone who looks up to the postive things in life; but in Britney’s case she is harssed, annoyed, critisized romours had been made up about her. Just leave her alone. How would you like your life to be broadcasted to the whole world, your life being picked apart and every step you take judged by your parents, your teacher, your boss, your co-workers, your neighbour, the stranger down the street and worse off..youself. I mean how would you like your fight or disagreement or what you had for dinner and how many drink you drank being told in a nationally acqired magazine? What about a pimple you had on your cheek one day being laughed at by the entertainment news? I am not famous and to be honest I do not want to be, I just wish people would get a life and quite talking down people they do not know (or are jelous of) celebrites are just like you and I..except their lives are invated by people that can’t do anything better with themselves!
Comment by Trish — September 22, 2007 @ 1:25 am
Take a deep breath Trish. Okay?
Its all part of being a celebrity or a public figure. Can’t deal with it become the next Greta Garbo!
Comment by Dee — September 22, 2007 @ 1:45 am
I totally agree - she is very sick and needs to get some sort of help quick… Or else everything will go downhill from here (even more).
Comment by Baby Milo — September 23, 2007 @ 5:05 pm
Britney….advise or just an ear for listening, I’m sorry you are going through some hard times. hang in there and don’t give up. Your children are important and fight for them and take care of you as well. If you need a break come to Iowa. My family would love to meet you including my 4 year old son. god speed and don’t stop loving yourself. You will make it.
Comment by Danyelle — October 2, 2007 @ 3:46 pm