Don’t Be So Melodramatic, Britney
 Photographer Dani Brubaker sold candid shots of Britney and her sons Sean and Jayden to OK! magazine, while at the same time providing these tidbits of information about the troubled pop star:
“She was very loving,†Brubaker recalls. “She told me she loved her children and that they are her life.” And far from being the neglectful parent some would portray her as, the photographer tells OK! that Brit was “very attentive” to the needs of her sons.
As for the 26-year-old singer’s reaction to the shots of her with her sons, Brubaker reveals, “I’m told that when she saw the photographs she literally cried for over an hour and stared at them all night long.â€
And a “friend” of Britney’s (notice how these “friends” always have such big mouths?) reveals these details about how Britney feels about her boys, fame, and just why she does what she does:
So if merely looking at photos of her children has Britney in tears, that would explain why, according to a friend of the singer, the young mom is “inconsolable†right now as the chance of her winning the custody battle for her children looks increasingly slim. “Those boys are her everything, and she’s said repeatedly that life isn’t worth living if she can’t have her babies with her,†says the friend.
The friend adds that Britney would say goodbye to the music business to look after her boys. “The only reason she’s doing this is because she wants them to look up to her onstage and be like, ‘That’s my mama,’ and be proud of her. She’d put her life before them and die for Jayden and Preston. They’re her whole world.â€
Reveals the friend, ““Britney has always said, ‘I would die for my boys if that’s what it took to prove I loved them. I’d do anything for them.’ â€
Well, that’s all puppies and sunshine and striped candy, but let’s not be so melodramatic, shall we? Nobody is asking you to die for your boys, Brit. You should be more worried about living for them.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not totally hard-hearted when it comes to Brit right now. I realize that she isn’t in her right mind and that she is dealing with an untreated bipolar disorder. I also believe that she’s attempting to quit any controlled substances in her life, again with no medical help, and that the combination of the two things (plus the fact that she isn’t quite the brightest crayon in the box to start with) is wreaking havoc on her body, mind, and chemistry. But to say something so filled with drama as, “I would die for my boys if that’s what it took to prove I loved them. I’d do anything for them,” is, quite frankly, a big lie.
I’m a big meanie-head, you say? Nope, just realistic. Let’s face it…she isn’t doing anything for her boys. She’s continuing down a path of self-destruction and is not listening to any attempt to help her (apparently her father has believed she is bipolar for a year now and has been trying desperately to get her in a hospital, bless his little heart…and we hear that some creative intervention ideas are being tossed around, including committing her against her will and granting a conservatorship to a guardian). She has repeatedly put her boys in harm’s way from the paparazzi and, lately, from herself.  Photos of her driving around in her convertible with the children in the back seat, in car seats but unbuckled, don’t show me a mother who puts her children first.
And this twaddle about how she wants her boys to look up to her and say, “That’s my mama”? More likely they will run and hide in their bedrooms while their playmates point and laugh at their mama. That’s not cruel of me to say, that’s reality, and the sooner Brit comes to realize it the better off her sons will be. Right now they’re too young to really know what is going on, and any playmates they might have are as well. But the time is coming, and soon, when they will begin to realize that mama isn’t exactly like other mamas, if you know what I mean.
With this wonderful invention of the internets, anyone who can manage to spell “Britney” will be able to Google the realms of archival information about her (and even if they can’t, because Google will spell it correctly for you), including the ill-conceived VMA awards fiasco and…well, just about anything they want to see, including her mommy parts. Plus kids don’t even have to know how to Google…all they have to do is watch TV or look at magazine headlines in the store, because Brit’s escapades are splashed all over. My daughter hates computers and the internets, and even she knows what is going on in Brit’s life.
Look up to her? Is that why she made the “Gimme More” video as a pole-dancing stripper? So her sons can watch it on television with their little friends, and turn to them with eyes shining with pride and say, beaming, “That’s my mama!”?  Is that why she’s photographed almost every night in some new drama? Let’s go back even farther, to before the crazazy took over…does she want “Hit Me Baby (One More Time)” and “Oops, I Did It Again” to be the legacy she leaves for her sons? She says she would quit the music biz to take care of her sons…is that why she released a new CD? Is that why she’s filming videos? Or…could it be that the people who see her as a walking ATM and who want to make money off her won’t let her quit? You want to quit for your boys, Brit? Then do it! Do it, or don’t even make stupid statements like that. It’s not like you’re hurting for money…provided you quit blowing it on flashy cars, airplane trips with pap boyfriends, and fat-filled Frapps.
I’m not even going to touch whether or not the photographer should have sold the photos, even after she said she would not (she didn’t sign a confidentiality agreement, but then again these were not photos for the public domain). And I’m also not going to touch how horrid a Photoshop job was done on them. I mean, come on…you can tell there has been a lot of retouching done to these photos, perhaps even including splicing. I’d think a so-called “professional photographer” would do better work than that…I can do better than that, and I’m an amateur photographer. Whatever Brit paid for these photos was way too much. Plus, does anyone remember the photos done a few years back of Britney, Kevin, and his daughter Kori? Yeah…Brit had that same dumb openmouthed grin in that one too. Kori was looking at her like, “Whaaa…?”
Look, Britney. Yes, I’m talking to you. I understand that you love your sons. I honestly don’t doubt that. But as I have said before, just loving your sons is not enough. You have to get help for your obvious mental problems. You have to get help for any other sort of substance abuse problems…cold turkey can screw with your system, bad. You have to stop acting like a spoiled, bratty, obnoxious little girl and grow up. And yes…part of growing up is accepting that you have a problem and that you must do anything you must do to fix the problem. It’s not too late to salvage your life, but you have to accept that you have problems.
You’re going to lose your children if you do not straighten up, do you understand? Um…HELLO? You can’t control the courts! Yeah, Kevin isn’t exactly Father Of The Year, and I’m sure he needs to undergo a pee test or two. But right now, he’s looking like Ward Cleaver next to you, because he is taking care of his sons and he is doing everything he can to keep them out of the spotlight and out of harm’s way.
Don’t be so friggin’ melodramatic with this crap about how you’d die for your sons. Live for them. Or you’re just going to die, period…and it won’t be for your sons, it’ll be because you refused to do what it took to get well.
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That was a fabulous article. Newsweek would be proud to have it on their hallowed pages. Great job k!
Comment by D — January 10, 2008 @ 10:09 am
She’d do anything for them. Except obey court orders in a custody battle. Oh, and get medical and psychological help.
Maybe instead of dying for them, she should get herself and her life together and start to LIVE for them?
Comment by Exyank — January 10, 2008 @ 11:07 pm
Thank you, D…I really appreciate that.
Although Exyank said everything I did in just two lines. When will I learn to economize in my words?
Comment by k — January 11, 2008 @ 12:14 am
“cried over them all night long”
Right up until she put on her sluttiest outfit and hit all the starbucks, gas stations and 4-star hotels between LA and Pasadena.
“the young mom is inconsolable”
She looks utterly devastated in the most recent photos with her pap-boy shopping for fake gucci bags in Baja.
“She’d put her life before them”
Except for when it’s inconvenient to do so, i.e. 23 hours out of 24.
I’m not buying ANY of it. It looks like a desperate effort to put a positive spin on the “downward spiral.” Some record company lackey probably came up with it in an order to portray Unfitney in a more “positive” light.
It just seems too convenient.
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If Brittany’s children are really her priority, that should be enough motivation to commit herself to treatment. But she’s being self-centered and her behavior is immature, to say the least.
For anyone who’s confused by all the bloggers, this can be an opportunity to self-educate about these terms that are being tossed about. It may come help you help someone you care about.
IF someone is bipolar, their moods can swing between euphoria and deep depression. They may seem quite “melodramatic”, but the pain’s real. Some show more of one extreme than the other. Some very creative individuals may seem mildly manic and are functioning. Shift work and caffeine (or worse)are no help. Regular,healthy sleep is very important. There can be a risk for suicide.
It was reported in California, that a person can’t be held involuntarily beyond three days of evaluation, unless there’s proof they are a danger to themselves or others. In general, if that level of severity isn’t met, the client is encouraged to remain voluntarily for treatment until they respond favorably and COMMIT to continue treatment as an outpatient. Even if they agree, some go through the motions, then after discharge they stop treatment, and the whole cycle starts again. Their motivation must come from within themselves.
There is far more to the topic than this. I spoke up because imo baseless judgments have no place in serious journalism.
In general, only licensed physicians may make a diagnosis.
Comment by madelyn — January 12, 2008 @ 5:36 pm
You are assuming, madelyn, that I have no experience, firsthand or otherwise, with bipolar disorder and the medical system.
Never assume. I know more about it than you might think.
And the last time I checked, this isn’t CNN or the NYT, this is a blogger’s opinion site. We find celeb news reports, report what happened, and then offer our commentary. It’s how we do things here. I’m not trying to diagnose, I am talking about what I see. I called this one months ago, and the ADD, before any other sites (serious or otherwise) were reporting it. Most major news publications are just now jumping onto what I’ve been saying for months now.
Oh, and btw, despite what anyone might think of my postings about Brit, one of my motivations is to educate people and hopefully point out things that could be helpful to someone. If I can help somebody get help for themselves or someone they care about, all the crap I take from people on this site is totally worth it.
Comment by k — January 12, 2008 @ 10:38 pm
k. ~ It was the remarks about melodramatics (w/quotes around it) which I was addressing, taking issue with it as related to Bipolar disorder. The diagnosis comment was by me, for me and also for readers: acknowledging my own limitations.
Comment by madelyn — January 13, 2008 @ 1:21 am
The “melodramatic” comment was in reference to her insistence that she would “die for” her children, yet refuses to live for them. It’s just that sort of remark that people often say in the throes of manic depression. I’m not trying to be mean or nasty or hateful with that title, but realistic. Nobody is asking her to die for her children, they are begging her to live for them. It’s too bad that she can’t see that, but perhaps somebody will see themselves or someone they care about mirrored in her situation and become empowered enough to seek help.
fwiw, I’m tired of getting up each morning and seeing what new havoc Brit has wreaked on her life the night before. I know it’s my job to keep abreast of these sorts of things, but it’s literally draining. I sincerely hope that she can be helped. I no longer say “get help”, because it’s my opinion (and only my opinion) that she’s past the point of helping herself.
I hope her family can do whatever it takes to help her. I’ve never had to write an obituary, and I don’t want to start with hers.
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