Rihanna And Chris Brown Back Together
After Chris Brown gave Rihanna a bloody beating a couple of weeks ago, it seemed as though the couple were headed for splitsville…but hold on, not so fast. Rumor has it that Rihanna, like so many other abused women, has taken back her abusive boyfriend after they got together at Diddy’s mansion to work things out:
The pair have reunited almost three weeks after Brown, 19, allegedly battered the “Umbrella” singer on Feb. 8, a source tells PEOPLE.
“They’re together again. They care for each other,” says the source. The on-again couple are currently spending time together at one of Sean “Diddy” Combs’s homes, on Miami Beach’s Star Island.
Adds the source: “While Chris is reflective and saddened about what happened, he is really happy to be with the woman he loves.”
In its latest issue, PEOPLE reports that Brown called Rihanna on her 21st birthday one week ago. “He called to wish her happy birthday,” a source told the magazine. “They’ve reached out to each other. It’s been mutual.”
And predictably, her family isn’t too thrilled with this news:
“Everyone wants them to take a break, to cool off,” a relative of Rihanna tells PEOPLE after the pair returned to Los Angeles together early Monday morning. “No one wants them back together.” [...]
“I’m concerned,” continues the relative. “I don’t want her to make a mistake, and I don’t want her to ever go through his again.”
But the entire trip wasn’t devoted to the relationship. While in Miami, Brown did some recording at a studio designed by Lenny Kravitz located in the Setai hotel. “He was here to record,” a source told PEOPLE. He also spent some time Jet skiing at the beach.
The couple left Miami early Monday morning on the same plane, arriving in Southern California.
Rihanna’s father, however, shows the decisive and strong fatherly leadership that a girl like her needs at this important time in her life:
“Whatever road she chooses, I’m behind her,” said Ronald Fenty, when reached by telephone on Barbados. Fenty took the reunion in stride Saturday, as he worked selling novelty items on a street corner in downtown Bridgetown. He says he hasn’t spoken to his daughter since earlier this month, for her 21st birthday, and only found out about the reconciliation through the media.
“We are a family who stick together even though we are apart,” he tells PEOPLE. [...]
As for Rihanna, Fenty would only say, “She’s a smart girl.” When asked what he would tell Brown as a father, he demurred, “I have no comment on Chris Brown.”
Wow, what an understanding guy. I know if it were MY father, he would have said something like, “If that lowlife SOB comes sniffing around my daughter again after he beat her to a bloody pulp he’ll find himself with a face full of fist and a butt full of my boot, and I would hope my daughter would be smart enough to kick him to the curb before I got there.” Yeah, okay, so I cleaned it up a little. There might be kids reading.
The thing that concerns me about this situation is that it happened so fast. The beating happened on February 8, and here they are already reconciled less than a month later. And they are both young; Rihanna just celebrated her twenty-first birthday while Chris is just nineteen. These are very young adults…in other circumstances, they would probably still be enrolled in college. Plus, it is alleged that this isn’t the first time something like this has happened between the two. Most people are now scratching their heads and asking…why in the world would she take him back?
There is no simple answer to that one. Whole books have been written on the mental state of an abuser and the ones they abuse and why the abused return time and time again, so I doubt very seriously I’m going to come to an easy answer by the end of this post. I’m not even going to try. I will say this to anyone reading thus far…if you are stuck in a pattern of abuse, there is help. Get out and please seek it. There is no good reason for it to happen and it won’t get any better on its own.
While I think it’s pretty galling that Chris allowed photos of himself to be taken on a jet-ski, having fun and looking like he didn’t have a care in the world, and his pathetic attempt at an ”apology” definitely left a lot to be desired, perhaps whatever anger management courses he is supposedly taking will help him get a grip on just what it is that makes him act like this. Yes, I know that he had the obligatory problems growing up…his parents divorced (wah wah wah, lots of people have divorced parents) and his family allegedly has a history of abusive behavior:
After Brown’s parents divorced, his mother remarried and Hawkins became his stepfather. Brown has spoken about a history of abuse in his family involving Hawkins, telling Giant magazine last year:
“He used to hit my mom. … He made me terrified all the time. I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was crying and thinking, ‘I’m just gonna go crazy on him one day.’ … I hate him to this day.”
“There was a lot of arguing between his mom and I,” Hawkins said. “I never raised a hand at his mom. [Brown's mother and I] argued frequently. … As far as physical abuse, there was no physical abuse,” adding, “I spanked Chris one time.”
“I became the bad guy,” he continued. “Chris was really mad at his mom for leaving his dad, so I became the scapegoat. No matter how much I tried to be a father figure, nothing worked.”
And Chris obviously had some anger issues even as a kid:
In that interview, Brown described how, at age 11, he vowed to his mother that he would be in jail by age 15 for killing his abusive stepfather. “I’m gonna take a baseball bat one day while you at work, and I’m gonna kill him,” he said.
But here’s the thing…it doesn’t matter where you come from, just where you are going. Seeing as how this might not be the first time this has happened (just the first time he got caught), there is already a pattern there of abusive behavior. It has been said many, many times that if he abuses you once, he will abuse you again. And that is true. There is NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE. That’s why it concerns me that Rihanna would go back to him after this. Just in case you forgot, here’s what she looked like after Chris got done using her as a punching bag.
But while I’m definitely not excusing what he did, I realize Chris is young. He can still learn to break the cycle, if he will make up his mind to do so and not look back. However, that will not be a quick fix; that takes time, counseling, lots of introspection and learning new behavior patterns to replace the old ones, and learning not to justify his horrific actions. It is not something that is going to happen in a month. It takes TIME, which is exactly what isn’t happening here. On the contrary, things are moving pretty fast, and that concerns me.
And let’s face it…sometimes, all the help and counseling and support in the world isn’t enough to change an abusive person. Our jails and prisons are full of people like that. In this case, I don’t think Chris will see any jail time…he’s all cute and famous and stuff. He’ll probably get a slap on the wrist and some community service.
Now, having said all that, just in case you think I went all soft and mushy…if I were close to Rihanna, I would advise her to not get back into a relationship with Chris. I’d tell her to let him deal with whatever he has to deal with on his own. Man up, so to speak. Who knows, with some space she just might decide that he isn’t worth her time, because there is NO REASON for abuse. I just don’t think there has been enough time and distance yet for her to gain any perspective and see this for what it was…an incident of horrific physical abuse from a person who supposedly loves her. Frankly, I just don’t have a good feeling, and I’m worried that it just might happen again.
Actions speak louder than words, Chris, and your actions are talking so loud that we can’t hear what you are saying.
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Rihanna is setting a poor example to the fans who admire her, and the many young woman around the world. Rihanna is a battered woman, no amount of money or fame will change that.
Comment by Kimi — March 3, 2009 @ 11:29 am
She is not setting a bad example. Any parent who lets thier daughters think that artist are role models are wrong. I have two daughters and I had told them that their parents and family are role models. Not artists!
Comment by Nina — March 3, 2009 @ 12:36 pm
Regardless of whether she is a role model or not, she is setting a very bad example for young women in total. By getting back with him, regardless of whether it was the first time it happened or it’s been one of many, she is telling young women it’s ok for them to get physically abused, that it’s ok for men to hit women and still have them go back to them like nothing happened. I am sadden that she would think it’s ok for her to go back, regardless of how much love she may think she feels for him. Usually a woman that has low self-esteem would go back to that type of man. She thinks she is not capable of being with a better man, therefore, going back to what she had before, an abusive man.
Comment by Breanna — March 3, 2009 @ 1:09 pm
She is most certainly setting a bad example for her fans and young women in general, just as the others commenting have stated. Regardless of how much you teach your children that the famous icons they see in the media are NOT role models, there are periods in a young person’s life when their parents and family take a back seat in their development. Seeing someone like Rihanna condoning this type of abuse by getting back with the person who attacked and threatened to kill her, is the wrong kind of message.
As k points out in her post, it’s not that they got back together, but rather how quickly they did so. Chris didn’t learn to beat women overnight, and he sure isn’t going to learn not to overnight either.
I understand the importance of forgiveness, but a person has to earn it. Chris Brown thus far has done NOTHING to earn anyone’s forgiveness.
I am done with them both.
Comment by Dawn — March 3, 2009 @ 3:23 pm
What a trashy couple. First they have a Jerry Springer type relationship, then domestic abuse, now back together. The sooner these 2 “stars” careers burn out the better it will be for all of us.
Comment by Lyn — March 3, 2009 @ 3:47 pm
She is a fool to go back. Leopards do not change their spots
Comment by Barney — March 3, 2009 @ 4:22 pm
Any pity or respect I might have had for Rihanna is gone.
I’m a survivor of an abusive family and later domestic violence. I understand the mentality of it very well. In most cases, a woman doesn’t feel she has any real options to escape the situation. She has children, no money, no family nearby, nowhere to go, whatever. Rihanna has none of those excuses. All I can assume is that she likes being the victim, and I have no sympathy for that.
Comment by Exyank — March 4, 2009 @ 12:55 am
fool me once, shame on me
fool me twice, shame on you
poor rhianna, no symphony when it happens again
Comment by tiger — March 4, 2009 @ 3:14 pm
duh, i think i had that backwards
Comment by tiger — March 4, 2009 @ 3:16 pm
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I myself have never grown up in abused house hold and though I haven’t some might say I wouldn’t understand.To that I say I don’t have to get hit in the mouth to know that it hurts.I’m not condoming what chris did but have people wanted his career to end because of this.You look at other celebrity that have done these kind of things.James Brown but people didn’t want his career to end,al green but people didn’t want his career to end.Terrance Howard abuse his wife but know one wants his acting career to end.You have rappers,actors, that do the same thing and know one wants to see them lose their lively hood.So what makes chris different.Chris shouldn’t be with anyone right now and neither should riahanna.They need to work on their on short comings.Problem with this world is when people find out that celebrities are human they want to throw them away.Funny thing about this is some of you the are bashing chris and saying riahanna shouldn’t be with him are with men that mistreat you.They both are young and need help.Chris what between your legs does make you a man.You need to man up and get some help you want to be treated like adult here your chance.Riahanna what’s between your legs doesn’t make you a woman.You need to grow up and realize that a man going upside your head and him calling you on your birthday doesn’t make it ok.Someday you may have kids son or a daughter or both and I hope you will teach your son not to put his hands on a woman.and your daughter to respect herself more when a man does she leaves his azz.
Comment by dee — March 7, 2009 @ 6:28 pm
I think Rihana is sooooo pretty and I cant belive she is getting back with him after what he did to her and it’s Chris’s loss on such a nice pretty and beautiful girl/women and good job to Rihana……. you go girl/women and good job standing up for ypur self
Love Courtney Alexander
Comment by Courtney — March 23, 2009 @ 3:55 pm
I think Rihana is sooooo pretty and I cant belive she is getting back with him after what he did to her and it’s Chris’s loss on such a nice pretty and beautiful girl/women and good job to Rihana……. you go girl/women and good job standing up for ypur self !
I cant belive your getting back with his azz and he needs to really keep his damb hands off of u just because ur better than him dont mean he has any right to put his damb hands on u soo good job girl/women I think that u did verry good job standing up for u and olny u and I admire tha so good job and stay in the game
Comment by Courtney — March 23, 2009 @ 4:03 pm
I think Rihana is sooooo pretty and I cant belive she is getting back with him after what he did to her and it’s Chris’s loss on such a nice pretty and beautiful girl/women and good job to Rihana……. you go girl/women and good job standing up for ypur self !
I cant belive your getting back with his azz and he needs to really keep his damb hands off of u just because ur better than him dont mean he has any right to put his damb hands on u soo good job girl/women I think that u did verry good job standing up for u and olny u and I admire tha so good job and stay in the game I will talk later on BYE!!!!!!
Comment by Courtney — March 23, 2009 @ 4:04 pm
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riahnna is making a big mistake because i dated chris brown when she was ans i still am!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by chrissy — April 15, 2009 @ 11:27 am
riahnna is making a big mistake because i dated chris brown when she was ans i still am!!!!!!!!!!!!
and i have his baby boy and girl
Comment by chrissy — April 15, 2009 @ 11:29 am